Life & Time

     Life comprises of ups and downs, good and bad, right and wrong but all in all, I believe that we can all agree that life is too short and beautiful to be wasted. Time is the most precious and valuable commodity we have and yet it’s never enough, it is extremely expensive but the majority of the time we waste it on the things that won’t even matter in the long run. We sit and we wait, thinking and believing that we have the time on our hands so we’re free to go get that job later, we think we can visit loved ones later, that we can fall in love later, or push family and friends aside because we will always have them around later. We don’t realize that the word LATER in itself has already failed us because we don’t have later, but what we do have is right now and we have to take advantage of the moment while it is at our feet, don’t wait because you never know if it will be your last. Neglecting objectives, your health, or loved ones isn’t fair to them and it isn’t fair to you, sooner or later it will come back to bite you, and when you realize it will be too late, that later that you were waiting on will already be gone or it simply won’t even matter anymore. 

     We tend to spend a lot of our time in the land of what-ifs and life is just way too short for that. If you love someone tell them, if you want that job then apply for it, if you want to climb Mount Everest then start climbing, these things are all your choices to make so you might as well just start doing it while you’re still here and still able to. In life, there are insurmountable lessons to be learned and these lessons serve as stepping stones for us, stepping stones of future choices that come with manuals known as the past. You see, those lessons aren’t just there as a scarlet letter they are there to guide you and help you make proper choices in the future. Many individuals tend to lock them away and forget them but in actuality, they do serve their own purpose in each and every one of our lives. 

     Life is a compilation of so much, yet we spend a huge if not all of it dwelling on one thing, one person, one moment and we use it to define ourselves, to define our lives. The question is why…why are we slaves to self-condemnation? Although each situation and person are different, I can safely say that we have all had our moments where we have been caught up so much so that we lost track of the original path we were on. Some of us have been lucky enough to break free and get back on the right path while others have not been. Regardless as the saying goes, life goes on and so does time without even missing a tick and we have to keep moving along with it as long as we have breath in our lungs. 

     Do you believe that it is safe to say that life is time and time is life? At the end of our lives, time will stop for us but it goes on for the rest of the world but when time ends then that will also be the end of all life as we know it. Hence why time will always be the most precious commodity that we can never afford. So, know that we all have only one shot at this thing called life and we have to use the time we’ve been given as properly as we know how because there are no do-overs. If you never have before then make time now for all the things that you have been putting off until later. The saying is true that time waits for no one and we’ve proven that time and again, so don’t waste this amazing life that God has blessed you with because you never know what lies around the corner of the path that is your life.

Delicacy & Strength

     Women are such delicate creatures, don’t get me wrong we are strong as hell when we need to be but we are delicate as well, that’s the beauty of women we don’t have to be one thing or another we have multiple sides to us. You see, we cry, we break, we fall but most of the time we do it when no one else is around and when you are around there is little to no chance that we’ll let you see us doing any of those things, on the off chance that we allow you to see us like that it’s because we feel safe enough with you, that we can trust you enough to show you that side of us. We have mastered the art of putting on a smile on the outside while we’re being torn apart on the inside, sad as this maybe it’s just the truth.

     Have you ever truly stopped to admire the beauty and delicacy of a woman? I don’t mean only physically because a woman’s beauty doesn’t lie in the size of her hips, the flatness of her tummy, the texture of her hair, or the shape of her face. Her beauty lies inside, in the thoughts that fill her mind, the purity of her soul, the kindness of her heart, and the words that spill from her lips. In the time I have spent discovering who I am and what I want, I have come to find out that acceptance and loving every bit and inch of myself helped me to find my own happiness without the assistance of anyone else. This road I chose to walk on my own instilled the knowledge in me that I deserve nothing but the absolute best.

     As a woman, I have learned to be patient, to be understanding, to be warm, and to be caring, these things are all traits that I excel in and I know many other women do as well, this is why it hurts me when we do all this and more and it ends up being taken for granted, but like the strong women we are…we forgive, we don’t forget but we do learn and we put it somewhere and we leave it right there. We don’t bring it up in future conversations or disgruntles because that would make us petty and unfair but do know that if a woman brings it up in the future that simply means that all has not been forgiven. So, when we forgive, we open ourselves up again to trust and we do it as we’ve never been hurt before and on top of that, we do it extremely well choosing not to bring the past into the present or the future.

     One of the biggest things as a woman that I have learned to accomplish is acceptance, I know I’m far from perfect, I don’t have the perfect smile, I don’t have the perfect skin and I sure don’t have a perfect life but I have accepted who I am and I never stop working to improve the things that I can. Most importantly I love me for me, I don’t need makeup to make me feel beautiful or clothes to make me feel sexy, I reserve all those things on my own naturally and free. I know for a fact that I am beautiful where it matters most of all and I have come to discover that there is nothing sexier than a confident, classy, and intelligent woman.

     Women, my point is this, cry…break…fall…do anything you need to do (obtaining your morals of course) to release yourself and feel free but when you’re done, no matter how long it may take, get back up, learn to trust again, believe again. Don’t ever let a bad situation or a bad person from your past or present even determine what your future will be, you and only you control your life, your decisions, and your outcome. The story of you will never be determined by a situation or a person; so, love yourself first, love your life, fall in love with the person you are because no one on the face of this earth will ever love you as you do.