It feels just like yesterday, probably
because I remember it so clearly that it almost makes it unbelievable, the last
day I was actually out among the masses before this pandemic hit. I was
spending some time with a girlfriend and getting ready to head home when the news was heard around the world, I thought that it would probably be one of
those things that go away before people even get the full understanding of
what it actually was. Little did I know that I was so wrong and it would be
something to go down in the history books, something this world would never
forget. The following day word of Covid-19 was on the lips of the world, even
countries that had no cases were talking about it, safety procedures were being
put into place and everyone was researching what this virus actually was, still,
panic was at an all-time low and the world was keenly keeping watch of what
would come next.
Before we even knew it or had
the time to prepare Covid-19 was being spread like wildfire, countries were
being flooded with cases, the death toll began rising, lockdowns were in effect
as well as curfews, quarantines, and safety protocols that ensured not a face
would be seen without a mask or hands touch without proper sanitization first,
it was either that or face the penalty that new rules were now putting into
place.
Now this is where I began to
panic and was nose deep into research trying my very best to understand exactly
what the Coronavirus was, what it does, possible treatments, and my panic
mainly was due to the fact that if I caught Covid it could very well prove
fatal to me because here I was in the body of a person living with a
compromised immune system. Living with Lupus for the past sixteen years and
Asthma for at least twenty-eight years, that’s a double whammy for Covid, I
won’t lie I was and still am living in complete fear and take every precaution
necessary to protect myself and my family.
In record time an entire year had passed marking a full anniversary of the last time I was actually outside among the public and among friends in
March 2020 to March 2021. Though
frustrating both mentally, emotionally, and financially I know it’s the best
thing I can do to stay alive, although a lot of the times during these past
months I haven’t even really felt alive and not to sound selfish here because I
am beyond grateful to still be here knowing that Covid has robbed so many of so
much but at the end of the day I am only human and these feelings will arise.
Our existence has been
diminished and our way of living has made a complete one-eighty, however with
this pandemic humanity’s true nature has been unveiled and revelations brought
to light. Things we once deemed as necessities have now become of little to no
value to us and though we have learnt the hard way, regardless we have learnt
and what I have personally learnt is appreciation. I have grown to appreciate
the small things more, matter of fact I have come to understand that they
aren’t actually small things at all but just things that we have placed into a
small box that somehow belittles and underappreciates them.
I have been spending more time
with my mother, I’ve been granted more access to her. Learning from her,
laughing with her, and being in her presence during this time has replaced the
importance and urgency of small things like events, trips, and plans. I have
also spent more time talking with and learning from my dad through voice and
video calls, though we are not even in the same country we are closer now than
we’ve ever been and this pandemic has been the cause of that, we are indeed
socially distant but mentally we have gotten closer as the days go by. Nothing
in this world has more value than that and in an optimistic light I see it all now
as a blessing, maybe the world needed Covid, maybe we needed Covid.
How often have you seen life
stand still? Us being forced to stay home from work, from events, from people
has started a chain reaction to healing and rest, a chain reaction that is
pushing us to spend time with those close to us and ourselves to re-learn about
each other, appreciate each other, and be grateful for the time we have. I have
been spending a lot of time with myself and learning about what actually makes
me tick, the results have been astounding. I used to not be able to go a week
without seeing people who I thought held great value to my life and now after
months of not seeing them and actually seeing myself and loving myself for who
I am, I don’t even bat an eye regarding ever seeing them again and that’s ok, I
wouldn’t exactly call it selfish or cruel, it’s really just prioritization and
learning.
At times I do suffer from a bit
of survivor’s remorse knowing so many have passed from Covid yet here I am
still alive and well, so to speak. So, what really makes me so special that
they’re gone and I’m not? I think we all have felt this way from time to time
and it somehow makes us feel like outsiders to this virus, even outsiders to
the loved ones left behind. How can we even begin to understand how best to
console, or try to help them feel better knowing their loved ones are gone and
they never even had the chance to hold their hands for the last time or utter a
final farewell personally. That in and of itself is worse than the virus, they
have to live with that as long as they’re here and I don’t think it’s ever
something they can go a day without thinking about.
I honestly don’t know what has
kept me going this long, my mental health is far better and stronger than I
ever believed it to be. I think my passion for writing has also been a
God-send, I feel like my pages are a kind of therapy for me, and being able to
express it all and let it go with a pen is nothing short of a miracle. Many
times, the thought comes to me that maybe my life has a purpose that I haven’t
quite fulfilled yet, a purpose that I still don’t quite know and understand. I
don’t believe we ever truly leave until we get it done, my belief is that there
is a higher power and until you do what you have been put here to do then you
can never leave until then.
Covid-19 has been an unexpected
burden thrust upon our world and in our lives, though vaccines are now being
developed, tested, and working we still wonder if it’s enough. How many of us miss the
normalcy of our routines, going to work, the beach, a wedding even or simply
shaking a stranger’s hand without worry of being infected or sanitizing
immediately after. Masks, don’t get me started on masks, how I miss not wearing
one, and the freedom of not having to worry about always having one on hand.
However, I have seen
unbelievable tasks from mankind that have renewed my faith in humanity. I have
seen so many give and sacrifice to help out a brother in need during this time,
it has taught me that no matter how bad things may get or how lonely we may
feel, our fellow men will always come through for us. Sometimes it takes a
disaster or a pandemic in this case to wake us up and see that we need help and
it begins with just one, it’s a domino effect that will eventually touch each
one involved.
Maybe the world needed this
pandemic and I say that with sadness because it has taken the loss of so many
lives and a horrible virus to actually wake us up, force us to open our eyes, and see what is happening to the world around us. To bring us back home and be
grateful for what we have and who we have, to reach out and help anyone and
everyone that we have the possibility and means to. I wonder if when and if we
ever return to our normal way of living if we will take the lessons that we have
learnt from this pandemic forward. Will we revert to our ways before all this
began or will we take all that we have learnt with us? Only time will tell and
I do nothing each day but hope for the Covid-19 era to end soon, to disappear
from our world as quickly as it settled here. It has left its mark upon us like
the scarlet letter and each one of us will come out of this forever scarred in some
way or another. All we can do is wait now, await a hug, a touch, a kiss, await
the freedom to take a breath unmasked.